Marrying a Young Filipina
Interesting video, but no-where near unique. After watching this video I decided I really should do a blog post on this subject to tell what I think and know about it. I know couples with bigger age gaps. All those couples are Filipinas married to foreigners. I live in the Philippines and have been married to a Filipina for 39+ years.
Filipinos are like other people, some are good, some are bad. I don’t know how this all turned out but this guy should have been more cautious. Many Filipinas on-line are just after the money of the “rich” foreigner. Plenty of Filipinos think that ALL Americans are rich. Most of the ones on-line expertly learn the best way to extract money from you. The vast majority of Filipinas are so sweet, but some only act sweet and are very evil underneath. There have been guys that send money to their “sweethearts” every month for things like building a house here or preparing paperwork to go to the US, UK, Australia or where ever and the whole time the sweetheart has a Filipino boyfriend and other foreigners on the hook sending her money. In a few cases, the guy sells everything in his home country to move to the Philippines but when he gets there, no sweetheart to meet him and he has no way or knowledge on how to find her. That does not seem the case in this situation. If the guy has met her family, it’s less likely she is a scammer, but not impossible.
It is not simple for the average Filipino to go to the US. You have many hoops to jump through. Each hoop cost money and, in some cases, you are told if you pay extra you get extra fast service. The best way that I know of to do this is via the Fiancee Visa. The reason it is not so simple is that too many Filipinos, even though they are only on 90-day visas, will not come back once they get to another country where they can make a decent living and be able to send money back to their families. If they get married within that 90-days to a foreigner and then file for their green card, they do not have to come back. There have been several cases that I’ve heard of where the ‘older’ guy spends his money to bring the young lady over and she leaves him after a couple of weeks for someone else, usually a younger guy.
Now, on the other side of the coin, some foreigners file to get these young ladies to their country and end up abusing them and using them as their personal servant. They could even be sold as sex slaves. Get them to a foreign country where they experience tremendous culture shock, take their passports and either threaten them or promise them their passport and traveling money if they just do as they are told for a while. Both sides take a chance if you do not do your homework.
I would say that most of the ladies looking to be married to a foreigner are legit. I know that plenty of Filipinas really do not care about the age of a man, in fact, many prefer a man a bit older because he is usually more secure in his life. I think they are looking for security first, money next and love third. I don’t blame them for that though. For the average person in the Philippines, it’s very hard to make a decent living. This is just one of the ways that Filipino’s use to get that security and money to help support their family. Other ways are as an Overseas Filipino Worker (OFW) or prostitution. Make no mistake, the family is very important in the Philippines. They will do what it takes to do their share.
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