Teach Your Kids Lost Arts
I am not a great mom.
My kids eat like crap. We eat out too much. They are on Roblox far too much and since our schedules are more lax, their bedtimes aren't always when I would like them to be.
(But hey, at least I'm not this asshole.)
That being said, I teach my kids lost arts.
There are many women my age who joke about not being able to boil water. Granted this is an exaggeration I'm sure, but in some cases, maybe not. With the spurring of the gig economy, a lot of young people rely on delivery to get their meals, or meal box services to show them exactly how to prepare them. Gone are the days where people memorized their grandmothers recipes from scratch, and even fewer are those who can make a solid meal from nearly any ingredients.
Cooking is absolutely a lost art.
My husband and I have had long and heated arguments about my daughter being in the kitchen with me. "She's too young." "It's not her job." These are a couple of the sentiments he has expressed and that I fervently disagree with. My daughter is 8. If she can figure out how to override the chat protections on Roblox, she can cook a damn egg. Also, she lives here for free, and I don't support freeloaders. 😂😂
I started teaching my daughter how to cook/bake when she was 3. Now of course I did that with every precaution in place, ya can't let a toddler chop onions with a giant knife, but a three year old can stir and count and measure. (And that she did.) Now at 8, Luci can make eggs, bacon, pancakes, cupcakes, hamburgers and macaroni and cheese almost entirely on her own. We have a gas stove, and it's super important that she learned the safety of one, but it is honestly no different than the safety that comes with riding a bike, or buckling your child into a car. She now has baseline skills that she can build on, and potentially master at a very high level.
My son is only 5 and isn't as interested in cooking, but I still plan to show him the ropes, so he doesn't get the idea that only women can/should cook!
Ok, so I guess this one is a stretch as far it being an "art" per se, but it is such an important skill!
I have dated so many men that didn't have their shit together financially. It is insanely frustrating. And really, there is no one to blame in that instance except the parents of said person who never showed their kids how to properly allocate their money. My parents demonstrated fiscal responsibility at a young age, and even though we were always quite poor, we still always had everything we needed, and my parents saved up enough for their retirement that they will not have to rely on any of their 4 kids' money to care for them. They even have their funeral costs covered.
(If this ain't adulting, then God Damn I don't know what is.)
I don't have my parent's precocious savings, but I do have no debt and I own the damn credit card companies by getting free rewards for using the cards but always paying my balance in full. Your kids will mirror your spending habits, and saving habits, so one of the best things you can do is set good habits yourself. On top of that, we use Dave Ramsey's kids program, where the kids earn money for doing chores, and they get 3 envelopes, save, spend and give and they have to split their money 3 ways. They can split it however they like, but must put some in each. Let me tell you, after only making .10-.25 per chore, and getting 3 bucks at the end of the week, they only ask to buy ice cream from the ice cream truck once, before realizing how stupid a purchase that is, and saving for something more cost-effective.
The key though, as in anything related to good parenting, isn't forcing kids to behave a certain way, but allowing them a degree of freedom in their choices. The worst thing you can do is be the only voice inside their head. You want their own voice to be in their head, making good decisions for themselves. Small steps at a young age can make a difference between you having a financial nightmare child that some poor soul will have to set straight later, or one that you rarely have to worry about because they have always made level headed choices.
My daughter and I just started sewing together. I learned how to sew when I was about her age, and at about age 12 I learned how to sew on a machine. Since then, I have been a costume head for a few theatre productions, I have made my own and others' cosplays, I have sewn my girl's doll clothes and even made my daughter some baby clothes. (Ah the halcyon days of having enough time to do something like that.) Basically, a simple skill I learned at a young age turned into a major skillset that I was able to utilize for many different purposes.
(My daugher hand-sewing her first barbie dress today!)
Sewing is an art, but also such an important skill! I have seen SO MANY nice clothes at Goodwill that someone gave away because IT WAS MISSING A BUTTON. Like, a $150 dress shirt for my hubs I once found, and all I had to do was sew on a button! That baffles me! (Granted their loss is my gain, so that's not so bad, but it's kind of pathetic as a culture how bad we are about throwing away what we can't fix.)
One of my favorite new trends are these micro repair cafe places popping up all over. It's basically a location that for a few hours on a weekend, has volunteers come and help people fix their stuff. I haven't been able to find one around me, but think the concept is pretty nifty. Granted, stuff really isn't made like it used to be, and is produced to break so that we just have to replace it. Couple that with the fact that so much stuff isn't even able to be fixed (cars, electronics etc) unless you are an expert at the field, and we just get an even worse version of a throw-away culture, but at least there are little glimmers of hope like this.
There are many other areas in which I currently am already or plan to teach my kids including gardening, pottery, painting, piano, guitar, crochet and probably a million other things I can't even think of at the moment.
I encourage everyone to do the same. Go out and learn something new today, or if you already are an expert at something, pass that knowledge down to someone young. These kids definitely aren't learning this stuff in public school, so it's up to us to guide them in areas that are of utmost importance.
Hope you are all having a great Saturday!
xx - Beth